Start talking about uncomfortable emotions. 😳 You know shame, guilt, anger, frustration, loneliness.
Its so true!
People do not like talking about uncomfortable things. I can even get squirrelly when sharing my struggles! I hear it all the time. My emotions are too big. I don’t want to be a burden to the listener, or its just too hard to feel these BIG emotions.
For me personally, I was never taught what to do with uncomfortable emotions. We certainly didn’t talk about them in my house. I learned to stuff my emotions down deep at an early age dealing with an alcoholic dad, divorced parents, and then actually dealing with the death of both of my parents by age 32. For me, talking about my emotions felt shameful. Something that I should just ‘get over’.
But what science is telling us is that talking about our feelings can help them feel less intense. It can certainly feel less shameful when you realize other people are going through the same thing. It can actually lower blood pressure (which btw I am the only member of my family on either side that has made it to age 52 without being on blood pressure medications.
There MIGHT be something to this dealing with emotions thing!
I think middle age is more difficult for most of us because we don’t talk about it. We may watch memes or gifs that make us laugh about it but very rarely does anyone offer real help.
That was a BIG reason why I narrowed down my clientele to ONLY serve middle age women. The findings of one study indicated that women in midlife, who experienced more stressful life changes and had higher body mass index scores, slept fewer hours and had greater health stress, which resulted in lower life satisfaction. Check out the full study here!
We have SO much going on!
There are so many changes going on in a short period of time, we all feel that there is Never enough time! Hormones are changing, weight is growing, children are aging and moving away, relationships can get stale, and career’s shift. Plus as women, we have a LOT of emotions which is not a bad thing.
But, if our emotions go unchecked they can really do some damage. It can lead to depression, memory issues, aggression, sleep loss. Just to name a few. A study from the University of Texas found that by not acknowledging our emotions we are actually making them stronger.
I want you to join us as we discus Emotional Agility by Susan David, PhD a psychologist on faculty at the Harvard Medical School. This is totally Free and I want you to invite a friend.
I am hosting on-line so you can stay in the privacy of your own home (or car in some cases) and lets discuss! Its totally okay if you haven’t read the book, I will have a companion guide to help walk you through some of the key concepts she shares in her book and I teach through coaching. This is your chance to see what this coaching thing is ALL about and its FREE!
Hey! Its totally okay if you don’t like talking about uncomfortable emotions. It is a skill you can learn, because you know what? You have a lot of people depending on you and dealing with hard stuff? It keeps you healthy. Stay curious!
Health risks go up as you age, but you have choices. You can decide to do your very best when it comes to aging gracefully, ask questions and stay curious OR you can make it harder than it needs to be. If you constantly argue for your limitations and all the reasons why you can’t do something, you get to keep them. But if you argue for your possibilities you get to create them! It is a skill and one you CAN learn.
I can not think of a better trait to teach our children.